How life changes after Marriage | shadi k baad ki zindagi
How life changes after Marriage
Ek independent girl se ek responsible housewife ki journey bahut lambi hoti hai. Kehte hain ek beti jab bahu ka roop leti hai na tab us se ghar walon ki expectations bahut increase ho jati hain.
Kuch logo ka kehna hain ke everything remains same but fark to padta hai. Fir wo chahe physically ho ya mentally. Bahut kuch badal jata hai.
- Morning wake up time : Shadi se pehle jo ladki subah apni marzi se utha karti thi aaj wo as per her inlaws timing uth ti hai.
- Food : Wo bana banaya tiffin nahi milta ab, subah uth ke ghar ke kaam ke sath sath khana apna bhi and poori family ka banana padta hai. Ek new bride ko jyada kuch nahi pata hota sab ki pasand ke baare mein. So ideally family should support her and usse batayen ke kis ko kya pasand aur na pasand hai. Appreciation of work done should be there. Is se encouragement milti hai to perform even more better
- Expertise in household chores : ek unmarried girl jisse ghar ke kaam ka koi experience nahi hai usse sasural mein aise dekha jata hai jaise wo koi superwoman ho to do things at the blink of an eye. To err is human so uski mistakes ko ignore karte hue usse bhi mauka dena chahiye with encouragement to improve
Ek girl ko humesha aise dekha jata hai ke usse to sab aana hi chahiye. Yes agar aana bhi chahiye to she isn’t living with you since ages. New house, new rooms, new environment kisi ko bhi settle hone mein time lag sakta hai.
Meri ek friend bataya karti thi ke when she got married, usse uske inlaws ne fully accept hi nahi kiya. Even in front of her wo log aapas mein kaan mein baat karte the. No appreciations of her efforts was there. After few months of her marriage, they started assaulting her physically and usse uske ghar call bhi nahi karne di jaati thi. Finally one day she took the boldest step of her life and usne apna samaan pack kiya and went to her parents. Indian society mein agar koi married female ghar aa jati hai to usse samjhaya jata hai ke your husband house is your house now. Try to adjust. But meri friend ke parents bahut supportive nikle. Unhone appropriate authorities mein complaint kari and uska divorce karwaya. Now she is independent, working and yes out of hell.
Waise life changes for Boys too. 🙂
Journey of Boy to a man bhi easy nahi hain. Agar girl ne apna ghar chhoda, compromise kiye then boy ko bhi ye sab karna padta hai tabhi to marriage cart moves on. Afterall husband and wife to us cart ke wheels ki tarah hain. Sath chalenge tabhi aage badhenge.
- Discussing every darn thing : Now that you have a wife, aapki uski harh choti se choti baat sunni to padegi and also she can call you anytime for any silly question in her mind. Fir chahe aap client ke sath meeting mein ho – Reply to banta hai boss
- Sharing your personal Room : Jis room mein since childhood you were staying alone, ab us mein aapke sath aapki partner rahegi and she can nag you to change curtains ka color, bedsheet and even wo apni choice se bed side bhi choose karegi.
- Not all girls i mean Wives are nice : be ready to give surprises, to handle anger, sillyness, and complete nonsense too.
- A good thing called Food : Now jab aapki marriage ho chuki hai atleast you will get home cooked good food all meals in a day. So thoda (thoda jyada hi) adjustment to karna padta hai.
So life change to dono ki hoti hai. Females ki toh!!!
- Body Shape : Changes just after marriage. From where all the fat comes aaj tak koi nahi jaanta ;). Overall health bhi change hoti hai with passage of time
- Society role : Ab you can’t go akele in any society event. Pehla question people will ask is – Kahan hain aapke better half
- Finances and Fund management : Pehle sirf apne liye karni thi ab humaare liye (as a couple) karni hai.
- Hairstyle : On a lighter note, ab to hairstyle bhi from open hair to tight bun ho gaya hai.
In order to cope up with these uncontrollable ( few under control though) changes, Marriage mein jab aap ek dusre ke life partner bante hain, Pyar chahe kam ho jaye par dosti kabhi kam mat hone dena. Kyunki dost bankar jitna kareeb jaya and dil ko chhuya ja sakta hai wo kisi aur tarah se nahi. Ye changes har married couple ki life mein aate hain in one way or the other. Things ko jitna positively lo utni hi life superior to live and enjoy ho jayegi.